The thorn factor

I don’t think that God intended any marriage to be perfect. I think of it as the “thorn” factor that He allows into the equation — that element that we shrink from, but that He knows we need. You may ask yourself, “Why would we need differences of opinion, sensitivities, misunderstandings, jealousies, resentments, comparing, sacrificing, arguments, emotional upsets, fears, heartbreaks, and adversity? Those things don’t sound like they would build a very strong marriage.”

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Dealing with dragons

By Marie Story

Have you ever faced a challenge? A challenge that seemed so big and scary that you wanted to run away from it before you even assessed its enormity and level of difficulty? We all reach these points in our lives when we say to ourselves, “I’m too small to tackle what’s ahead.”

Dealing with scary challenges isn’t easy. It takes a whole lot of courage.

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God’s mosaics and Christmas

Have you ever come across a construction site where the men were laboriously laying a tiled floor, one of those mosaic floors with thousands of tiny tiles that create a picture when finished? While it’s being put in place, the picture isn’t clearly visible, because as they work, the men use a cement mortar to fill the area between the tiles, and the grout often leaves a gray film over the whole masterpiece that hides the beauty of all that’s been done. At the end, it is finally cleaned off to reveal the picture in its full beauty.

That’s so much like the way the Lord works in our lives.

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Five things super-happy couples do every day

By Ty Wenger:

The Lord knows this is not the sort of thing guys brag about. But I have a ridiculously happy relationship with my significant other.

It hasn’t always been this way. In fact, I’m not ashamed to admit that our current bliss is the result of almost a year of counseling, a desperate effort undertaken several years ago, when we appeared destined for doom. What we learned then is something all happy couples eventually discover: A good relationship is a bit like a pet boa constrictor: either you feed it every day or bad things happen.

We asked happy couples to tell us about relationship-strengthening solutions they’ve developed. Try your hand at incorporating a few into your daily life, and maybe you can be as ridiculously, embarrassingly, revoltingly happy in your relationship as I am.

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How gratefulness destroys negativity

By Jeremie Kubicek

Gratefulness is the boundary that keeps negativity at bay.

For example…

  • Being grateful for the freedoms we have gives us perspective to handle frustrations we have with administrations or bureaucracy.
  • Gratefulness toward having a job or career we love gives us patience to handle short term seasons of animosity or worry.
  • Being thankful for our families allows us to put up with any pettiness that naturally exists in day to day living.

In my experience, when gratefulness is turned up to its highest level in a person’s life, then areas of selfishness, greed, and unnecessary worry and frustration get pushed out of that life.

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Getting a grip on your finances

Three principles for achieving true financial success
by Bruce Howard, Christianity Today

Some people point to credit cards as the principle villain behind financial crises. Companies, they note, encourage us to use credit to increase our present consumption. Want it? Charge it! Dispel your boredom and master the possibilities with MasterCard. Enter a new world of discovery with Discover Card. So we organize our patterns of spending around the one “low” easy monthly payment. But payments add up; and to meet them, people start working two jobs, lead hectic schedules, and they end up being unable to meet true financial needs.

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What are the blessings of giving?

“Whatever you spend,” the Lord says, “I will repay!”

Do you remember who else said that? – The Good Samaritan! It’s from the parable that the Lord told about the poor man that was beaten and robbed along the road by thieves, and the Good Samaritan picked him up and took him to the inn and told the innkeeper, “Whatever you spend, I will repay.” (Luke 10:30‑37)

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Forgive your way to better health

By Fred Luskin, PhD

Stanford University Forgiveness Project

We all know that hostility increases risk for heart disease. But new research shows that forgiveness can moderate these dangerous effects on the heart. People who blame others for their problems have a higher incidence of chronic pain, cardiovascular disease and other ailments.

Why is forgiveness good for you? There are two primary reasons… Forgiveness reduces chronic stress. Self-generated, chronic stress triggers negative physical changes, including increased blood pressure and heart rate and decreased immune function, all of which eventually lead to disease.

Forgiveness increases one’s sense of control. Feeling in control is crucial to health. It moderates the stress response because one is less likely to panic and overreact to situations. Feeling helpless can make you ill. When you learn how to forgive, you develop the emotional confidence to “get over” any difficulty.

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Give up the blame game

By Renata Waldrop

One thing that is very damaging to a marriage is blame placing. When you place the blame on your mate, in a way you excuse yourself from being a part of the solution, and you put the onus on your mate to do all the work of changing whatever you’re unhappy with.

“Honey, where are my navy pants? Didn’t you wash them?”
“I can’t worry about your clothes because I’ve got to get your son ready! Who else is going to do that?”
“Well, I worked overtime last night! I didn’t have time to wash and press a pair of pants.”

This was normal conversation in our house – one spouse offering up a sacrificial responsibility, the other countering with greater sacrifice. I even recall one or two arguments over the fact that he keeps more pillows on the bed than I do. (It seemed important at the time.)

Our marriage had become little more than dueling to-do lists – a competition to establish who had the most hectic schedule, as if that were the secret of marital superiority: “She who works hardest wins.” But what did I expect to win?

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Eight lessons of love

By Mike and Debbie Breaux

Growing up, I (Mike) had all kinds of confusion about the crazy little thing called love. In the fifth grade, I got my first crush on Kathy. She had that Laura Ingles Wilder thing going, with the braided pigtails. So cute! I chased her at recess. I threw rocks at her. All the ways you show affection in the fifth grade.

By high school my dating techniques changed – thankfully! I started to date Debbie. I remember sitting with her in a movie theater. My heart would pound because I wanted to hold her hand so badly! But I was shy. I’d go into this countdown mode. Ten, nine, eight … ten, nine …

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